Trauma bonds creep into the shadows of our minds, cunningly entangling us in ties that challenge our very understanding of love, loyalty, and survival.
A trauma bond, also known as a trauma bond syndrome (TBS), refers to the strong emotional connection that forms between individuals. This bond develops between individuals in various relationships, including romantic partnerships, familial ties, or even friendships.
How trauma bonds start:
- Shared Traumatic Experience: The bond often originates from shared traumatic experiences. This could be situations where both individuals faced intense emotional pain, physical harm, or other forms of trauma together. The mutual experience of trauma can create a deep sense of understanding and connection between them.
- Intense Emotional Dynamics: Trauma bonds are characterized by intense emotional highs and lows. The cycle often includes periods of idealization, where one or both individuals feel deeply connected and understood, followed by devaluation or negative interactions. This cycle can create a powerful emotional pull, making it difficult for individuals to break free from the bond.
- Manipulation and Control: In some cases, trauma bonds may involve dynamics of manipulation and control. One individual may exert control over the other, using the bond to maintain power and influence. This manipulation can deepen the bond, as the controlled individual may feel dependent on the manipulator for validation, safety, or emotional support.
- Shared Secrets and Vulnerabilities: Over time, individuals in a trauma bond may share deep secrets, vulnerabilities, or fears with each other. The act of sharing such intimate details can create a sense of closeness and trust, further strengthening the bond.
- Isolation from Others: In some situations, the individuals involved in a trauma bond may become isolated from others, either by choice or due to the nature of the traumatic experience. This isolation can intensify the bond, as the individuals may rely heavily on each other for emotional support and validation.
It’s important to note that trauma bonds are harmful and abusive unhealthy relationships. Recognizing the signs of a trauma bond and seeking support from trusted individuals or professionals is essential for promoting healing and well-being. Believe your friends when they tell you it is a bad relationship with a bad person. It will be intoxicating to you so be aware of the repercussions of not listening to others who are steering you into safety.