Why Childhood Trauma Shapes You and How to Break Free

Childhood trauma alters the brain’s structure and function. The developing brain of a child is highly susceptible to stress. Chronic exposure to traumatic events results in changes in areas of the brain responsible for emotional regulation, memory, and stress response. This leads to heightened anxiety, depression, and a heightened state of alertness even in non-threatening situations.

The Struggle: Children of A Covert Narcissistic Parent

One of the most damaging aspects of growing up with a narcissistic parent is the constant criticism and belittlement.
Adolescents internalize these negative messages, believing that they are flawed or defective. Over time, this erodes their self-esteem, making them doubt their worth and value. We develop a pervasive sense of self-doubt, always second-guessing ourselves and our abilities.

Calming Box The Manipulative Nature of Covert Narcissistic Parents

The manufactured facade they present to the world conceals the emotional void within, and they will go to great lengths to preserve this illusion, even at the cost of their family’s emotional well-being.

Cruelty has no bounds for them as they employ coercive tactics to maintain their false image of nobility and superiority. Hurting and damaging their innocent loved ones. Leaving lasting effects that are difficult if ever to recover from in life.

Their relentless pursuit of feeling exceptionally special and invincible drives them to use their children as tools and weapons to satisfy their insatiable need for power and influence.

Cultivating Safety and Effective Communication With Your Conscious Brain.

People are busy trying to figure out what makes them anxious and then take that out of their life thinking they can remove it and everything will be fine but it’s not effective.

Safety is a critical aspect of overall well-being, and it’s important to recognize and respond to the signals our body sends us. It’s also essential to keep growing our capacity.

Narcissists Projection

When a narcissist projects onto their victim, they may falsely accuse them of possessing the very qualities, flaws, or behaviours the narcissist displays themselves. For example, a narcissist who  lies may accuse their partner of being dishonest. By doing so, they create confusion and doubt within the victim, making them question their own reality and fostering a sense of guilt or responsibility.

The Effectiveness of Talk Therapy

Why talk therapy is not for everyone. Complex trauma results in a range of symptoms that extend beyond cognitive understanding and verbal expression.

You could never express yourself. Why would you know how to now?

This expectation from others means they had the privilege of growing up being able to communicate. To express themselves. Someone listened to them. Their opinions and their feelings mattered.