Navigating relationships and communication with narcissists is challenging, requiring a balance of self-preservation and assertiveness. Establishing clear boundaries is crucial in maintaining your emotional well-being. The best idea is to get away and not interact as they are dangerous for your mental health, physical health and emotional health.
You can to experiment to find methods to control your reaction as they love to fuel misery and hurt.
Here are three statements to help you deal with a narcissist:
- “Your Anger Is Not My Responsibility”
Taking responsibility for another person’s emotions is a deceptive tool narcissists use to manipulate those around them. By asserting, “Your anger is not my responsibility,” you reset the playing field. This statement makes it clear that you won’t be a source of their emotional relief or validation. It establishes a boundary, ensuring that you prioritize your mental health and emotional stability. The less they affect you, the better you will be. They will not change so work on yourself for the highest level of freedom.
- “I Don’t Control How You Feel About Me”
Narcissists try to control how others perceive them, using emotional maneuvers
to mold people’s opinions. By stating, “I don’t control how you feel about me,” you assert that their emotions are their responsibility. This statement empowers you, reminding both yourself and the narcissist that your actions won’t be dictated by their reactions. It reinforces the idea that you only have control over your own behaviour, not the emotions of others.
- “I Hear What You’re Saying”
Acknowledging the narcissist’s words with, “I hear what you’re saying,” is a tactic to diffuse your tension. While you may not agree with their perspective, this statement validates their need to be heard. Narcissists seek attention and validation, and by simply acknowledging their words, you create a momentary pause. This can be a strategic move to de-escalate a situation and avoid further discussion on a contentious topic.
Dealing with a narcissist requires a combination of self-awareness and assertiveness. These three statements empower you to set boundaries, prioritize your emotional well-being, and navigate challenging conversations. Remember, you can’t control others’ emotions, but you can control how you respond. Using these statements can help you maintain your sense of self in the midst of narcissistic dynamics, fostering healthier and more balanced relationships.
They are psychopaths and dangerous. Do your best to build space for you to choose how to respond. That can mean saying nothing or leaving.
Keep going to rebuild your self esteem and your sustainable platform of calming. Your calming box of tools will provide peace and contentment as long as you keep going.