Narcissist have patterns and traits that include the same narrative over and over. They demonstrate these in different situations and take every opportunity to perpetuate the narrative that suits their needs.
They want control over you, every situation, and they never stop.
They want to be the centre of attention relentlessly.
They want to feel important, however that looks.
They want you to feel diminished so you stay under their control.
It’s impossible for a narcissist to have any emotional attachment bonds.
They walk in front of you to demonstrate dominance.
Narcissist walk ahead to invalidate and neglect you
In a normal, loving, supportive relationship partners walking together, as equals, clearly demonstrates mutual respect.
Walking alongside someone is an acceptance and compromise with both of you. It’s about finding a walking tempo That falls somewhere in the middle of both your average walking speed.
However, narcissists defy this norm by consistently positioning themselves ahead of their partners. This behaviour serves multiple purposes, all rooted in their dominant and self-centered nature.
It’s a visual representation of their perceived superiority in the relationship. By taking the lead, they assert control and invalidate their partner’s feelings, needs, and opinions.It can also indicate they are pulling away from you at any time leaving you needy.
This keeps you in a position where you’re constantly needing to respond to their needs constantly trying to keep up constantly in chaos
To keep up with the manipulation of the different dynamics, and different interactions all about them.
Narcissists do not compromise with anyone.
Especially with their significant others.
They want to disregard your desire for closeness and intimacy.
Keep you begging for more and the balance of power stays in their favour.
This action reinforces the power and control and diminishes your sense of importance, within the relationship. You do not matter, you do not count. This Is not good for your self-esteem.
How does narcissistic abuse show up in your relationship? How can you untangle yourself from a trauma bond?
Start by educating yourself on their patterns to enable you to disconnect and build your own foundation of calm.
You can keep finding yourself, establishing your self esteem as you recognize your freedom lies in building your calming box of escape.