There can be a social contagion to avoid socializing to ensure feeling ‘safe’. Or to use cannabis or alcohol to feel numb. Even video games…
Trauma Survivors Feel Like They Have No Home and No Connections
trauma survivors often carry a deep loneliness that isn’t simply about being alone. In fact, most survivors become hyper-independent. They learn early on relying on others isn’t safe, or that emotional needs will be dismissed. So they become self-sufficient, capable, strong and isolated. The loneliness they feel isn’t solved by company; it’s a longing for a kind of connection that was never nurtured in the first place.
The Trauma Loop Breakup
Over time, as your nervous system settles, the mental loops begin to fade. You stop revisiting old wounds not because you stopped caring, but because your mind finally realizes it doesn’t have to solve them anymore.