Engaging in a dialogue with a narcissist is a daunting task, fraught with potential pitfalls and manipulation. The right choice of words can pave the way for a more constructive conversation to help you maintain your footing. The narcissist thrives on chao and will want you to feel jarred and emotionally jolted. All you need to do is practice finding methods to build space for yourself. To create your own platform of calm. Add more tools to your calming box kit and keep experimenting.
Here are some phrases that can help maintain your emotions, until you can plan your response. Your response may include walking away, remaining silent and getting support.
“I’m Sorry You Feel That Way”
Empathy doesn’t always equate to conceding your stance. Expressing regret for someone’s feelings is different from admitting fault or compromising your boundaries. When dealing with a narcissist, this phrase acknowledges their emotions without placing the blame on you. It subtly shifts the responsibility back to them, potentially diffusing tension and allowing them to feel heard without escalating the conflict. Giving you space to leave and calm down without them seeing you vulnerable and adding fuel to the fire.
“Everything Is Okay”
Narcissists lack self-awareness, they struggle to navigate high-intensity emotions and conflicts. Assuring them that everything will be okay provides a sense of validation and reassurance they may not be able to find within themselves. This simple affirmation can help ground the conversation, reminding them that situations are manageable and transient.Instead of them feeling high levels of emotions, they want you to feel them instead, because they cannot tolerate them. They are unbalanced and usually do not want to change.
“We Both Have a Right to Our Own Opinions”
Establishing mutual respect is crucial in any conversation. By acknowledging their right to an opinion, you are not only maintaining your own stance but also subtly reminding them of the boundary between opinion and fact. Narcissists seek dominance in conversations, aiming to assert their superiority. This phrase serves as a reminder that while they are entitled to their perspectives, it doesn’t diminish yours.Remember to keep yourself safe physically and emotionally. Their disrespect takes its toll on you.
Communication with a narcissist is non-existent because they like the power dynamic they have created. Which includes taking no responsibility for their actions. Give yourself patience. These phrases offer a roadmap to navigate such conversations, emphasizing empathy, validation, and mutual respect. Remember, the goal isn’t necessarily to change the narcissist’s behavior but to establish healthy boundaries and maintain your own well-being. By choosing your words carefully, you can try to create a dialogue that buys you space in challenging circumstances. Keep going until you can diminish contact or have no contact with the narcissist. Keep building your calming box to find tools to maintain your emotions until you find a safe space physically and emotionally. Reach out if you need support and keep going.